Grounding Courage, Trust and Laughter

Grounding Courage, Trust and Laughter

Is Your Life Difficult or Easy?

Are you Happy having an easy time in your life? I was speaking with a lady on the train who was down from Darwin for a few days. Heather has two male children, one with ADHD and the other with Asperger’s. My immediate reaction was to feel she had a difficult life. She responded that her life was no more difficult than anyone else’s. immediately I felt that she was very courageous. I concurred when she said she believed we are given only that which we are able to cope with and learn from. This is my firm belief, we will be handed challenges, call it what you will, in order to evolve, expand and grow as human beings into becoming more spirit-based, whilst in a human body.

Laughter is important and the little dog Trixie is our mascot, trotting around us as we do our laughter exercises.

Laughter is important and the little dog Trixie is our mascot, trotting around us as we do our laughter exercises.

I have chosen to bring up the subject of Courage as being a very important quality to hold and express yourself through. Do you see yourself as being courageous? People generally live life unconsciously, being led and drawn throughout their lives. Granted there are decisions, activities and goals that we busy ourselves in. We can either express from a selfish centre, where it is all about me, which is prevalent when we are young. The whole world revolves around us and our desires. As time passes, this alters and many of us ponder, feeling to give back and share from our life’s experience and gained wisdom. Life expresses more about how may I serve? This revised attitude may also be unconscious, rather that we have a growing feeling of liking to help or be useful in some ways.

Life Throws us Challenges

Courage comes in when challenges present themselves to us and we can take the stance to be strong, to not give in, to never give up, to keep going on, no matter what. We can feel utterly and completely lost, or perhaps see the end in mind, whether we feel we have it all worked out, in line with our purpose and plan or otherwise.

It takes guts to turn up no matter what. Nothing stopping us, becoming unstoppable. There is a fine balance with not burning ourselves out either, as we must give from an overflowing abundance of energy or else our own health may be depleted. We can feel resentful also if we are coming from the ‘wrong’ motives.

Wrong is in inverted commas, because in theory there is no right or wrong. We have choices and consequences. Our motive may be to fulfil a need we carry due to low self-esteem and is not as clear or pure as when it is from a genuine desire to be embracing life in a way that we feel we are giving back to life.

Taken in context, therefore, we have the opportunity to call on Courage in our lives when we feel the need. Courage is an interesting word, or quality. Many of us have it in some things that we have to do and not others. We may work well, be smart, on the ball and feel strong, together and yet on a personal level, we can shrink.

It is all okay, either way. Just get real with yourself and know when you need to call for outside support to get you going, through to the other side.

Call on Courage to see you through, offer support and you may in addition call on Trust, as together with Courage, they go hand in hand. If we don’t feel Trust, it will be harder to accept Courage when we ask for it.

Laughter Yoga Strengthens our Capacity for Courage

This is where using Laughter Yoga can come in, to support us in our lack of commitment and when our fears hold us back. Do we want to be chicken or have the Courage of a Tiger. Or would you pick another cat? Maybe a mouse, who in one story stands up to an elephant.

I sincerely say that the longer I run laughter clubs, the more certain I am that to include (not to say it is all that you need) laughter in your life, you will be changed in ways that will please you! That is for the best, we do not want to be settled, we like to feel safe and secure, but what growth is in that? Nil.

John, my husband who joins me frequently speaks of how laughter has been instrumental in getting him out of comfort zone. John recently shared that he will speak with anybody, new people who he would not have otherwise approached before him joining the laughter club.  He feels it may be more difficult too for the men out there.

A regular male attendee who has been coming for several years astounded us when he said that he was very shy and had to make himself come back again. That is not always the case, as many people come to laughter club once and feel it is not for them. I feel they may not attend long enough to find out if that is so. Quite a few share they felt uncomfortable and returned regardless. The longer you come, the better you will feel. Even though it gets you out of your comfort zone, you will once again experience child-like playful fun, but this time as an adult with other adults. It does become natural and spontaneous once more, with the practice of regular attendance at a laughter club.

Laughter helps you get over yourself, your appearance, lack of confidence and resistance to being outside in a social group. Many of us withdraw or, through no fault of our own, are quite isolated, especially as we age.

We improve being inhibited when we connect with adult members in the laughter club. Part of what we do is embrace child-like playful fun with each other. Such as you may recall as you would have as a child, playing outside with the neighbourhood kids on a hot summer night, or however you remember those precious childhood memories.

What we do at Laughter Club.

We do laughter yoga exercises, deep breathing, singing using ho ho or something similar instead of words, dancing around and in general behave as if we are doing improvisation theatre.

It is never too late to start something new like attending one of our laughter clubs, or that thing that you have held off doing. What is on your bucket list? Does it require Courage and Trust to do it or is it related to time or money?

Develop new Brain Pathways

Neuroplasticity is about the science of neurons, the brain to develop new cells and pathways. Brain Gym is becoming widely practiced and educates people to expand themselves with exercises. People can further develop their brains and have greater cognitive behaviour with various activities. The top activity for Neuroplasticity is laughter, next singing and dancing. We do all of these when we meet at community laughter clubs.

My involvement with laughter has certainly done that, released me from my comfort zone, expanded my horizons, opened up new pathways, not only in my brain but in many other areas of my life.

No doubt we could be led to be involved in many activities that would help us to achieve a feeling of expansion in our lives. That is if we allow ourselves to be inspired by a greater part of us which is beyond physical limitations, we will find our way.

Finishing Off

My wish for you is to dig deep, make an effort if you aren’t already, to discover new things to do in your life. We want to have a greater expression of ourselves on all levels, well many of us are into growing and if what I share does not resonate with you, that is fine as life happens and evolution can take as long as it takes.

We may feel out of our depth, like being pulled along and without being in control, rather than our life being of our choosing and being able to follow our passion.

If you have lost yours, direction and passion, then please, please come to one of the local laughter clubs, or another one if you live elsewhere. It may be just what the doctor ordered!

Laughing together with supportive, like-minded people is extraordinary. We come together sometimes quietly, throw ourselves into the session and leave feeling magnificent. We feel uplifted, energised, appreciative and with the intention of bringing more laughter into our lives, in whatever way is possible.

Cheerio for now. Lynette.

Disclaimer: Information shared is intended to support you and is from my personal understanding, experience and is generalised. I am not responsible for how you take it on board.

Ferntree Gully Laughter Club Celebrates

Lynette was walking towards the camera for this weird shot.

Greeting Anew

Greeting Anew, how to live a spontaneous life.

It is vitally important to greet each moment as if it was the first moment, bringing a new experience to us. This helps us work towards releasing old patterns of connecting and relating with ourselves and other people, with everything in every moment that we encounter. Otherwise we find ourselves running on subconscious patterns, not unlike animals who are instinctive. And instinctive is not the same as living with our intuition unfolding. That is what we want, to be intuitive, in touch with our feelings. Feelings are the sum total of our experience and separate to emotions. If you want to hear more about feeling as against emotions, I am happy to hear from you and will respond to an email.

Greeting Anew works your non-physical muscles and is beneficial to the way you live your life. If we are fresh in our approach, we can identify and be fresh ourselves. We feel and see through different eyes, giving us truer feelings and spontaneity in absolute awareness, instead of living and being on automatic pilot.

It is a part of self-mastery to constantly greet people and situations anew. Each day I give myself constant reminders to greet anew with everything and everyone with whom I encounter.

Categorising into boxes

It is all too easy to slip into the hum drum method of automatically categorising into boxes. It’s a natural way our body works, trying to assess people and situations to make sense and order in our lives. But it causes separation and ideally, we can unlearn this automatic way of living our lives. It happens ion a milli-second, as we use our senses in our lives through filters which helps prevent an overload of sensory input.

In particular I am talking about people, who we can automatically categorise and put into a box. And then carry with us an expectation of those ones always behaving in the same way, we see them rather through our memory of how they were and what they mean to us. This is very disrespectful and what we are doing is projecting onto them which may keep them stuck. You know the feeling, you feel that you are evolving, changing, improving and other familiar people in your life see you and treat you in the same way, always the same way. They are unable to appreciate how you feel new and consequently, you feel unheard, misunderstood, unseen.

It may constrict them even if it is done unconsciously, which prevents those ones from changing when we contribute to the situation in this way by expecting them to be the same old way.

To be able to bring new life into our interactions and stop expecting things to be on repeat, takes effort. It is human nature to automatically slot things into categories and boxes and attempt to make sense of things, according to our unconscious rendering of the situation and it helps us to understand everything more.

But because we keep growing, our understanding expands and grows with us and it is not stagnant. If we do not continue to grow, learn and expand ourselves, we start going backwards. We are part of evolution, and if we aren’t evolving, we do not stand still, we devolve! I feel qualified in commenting on the saying to ‘use it or lose it’. It takes greater effort as we grow in age to stay active and improve in our self mastery, which is of interest to me and no doubt to some readers also. Worth mentioning here is a premise of self-mastery which is just that. It is about evolution and heading in the direction that allows us to release fear-based patterning and incorporate more love based activities into our lives.

When we were younger, fitter, more agile, there was a lightness in our step that is often absent over time, if we become more settled and sedentary. If that’s what it takes, greater effort, then that is what we must do. From my experience until a year ago, I had become quite sedentary and luckily somehow, energies draw to us what we need. In this case it was joining a twice weekly strength building exercise class. From that I had more energy to walk on a regular basis and my core strength keeps improving.

How we live our life can be conditioned unconsciously by society, community, cultural differences and so on. Seniors in Australia, and that’s a generalisation, from my experience, are very active and involved in a whole plethora of interests and activities. They are out and about, leading very busy lives. Well good on them! Good on you if that applies to you! If it is not you, then great also!

Returning to the earlier comments about your life, purpose and goals. I have available a particularly good document, which is a process of Creative Visualisation. This works well when done every day and helps over time to energetically attract what you want in your life. Either email or phone me for it.

I love it when I can live life with enthusiasm, disallowing tendencies to become cynical and flat. It can be so interesting, many of us feel we understand and are getting a handle on why we are here with clarity and conviction. And then there are times with this outlook that we comprehend that what we once knew and understood continues to grow, expanding more and more. We build on our experiences and what we know, which is ongoing, helping us to evolve further and further.

Cheerio for now, please write or call, I would dearly love to hear from you.

Love and Laughter,
Lynette xo

Disclaimer: Information shared here is from my personal understanding and experience. Advice given is general and as I am not a medical doctor, take no responsibility for how it is received, my intention is that articles will be supportive and assist in living a fuller, holistic life.