Let’s do it different this Christmas 2020

Let’s do it different this Christmas 2020

Regarding 2020 and this upcoming Christmas I feel to share my experience and feelings, for those who have had similar ones and are looking for alternative ways of coping. The intention is one of planting ideas to help you grow and blossom inside.

What an extraordinary year it has been, so many challenges, stresses, limitations as many of us have never experienced before. At the same time you may have noticed that with the worst things that can possibly happen to us, there comes equally unparalleled opportunities for growth.

We have observed with the advent of Covid-19, limitations placed upon us which we have received with varying amounts of grace and grumbling. It had to happen. The earth, or Gaia as many of us know her, is in dire straits, with her resources being pillaged, and abused. Yet it is not too late! There is still time to turn things around. Hope is not entirely lost.

How this relates to Christmas for me, has been to have stronger convictions to resist the conditioned patterning learnt right from early days, about it being very much about materialism, gift giving and particularly receiving.

Letting go of judgment, as we are all where we are at and for me my life has been about not having strong enough convictions to carry through what has been felt in my heart. That is to not get caught up in all the hype, the stretching of the wallet and using credit card. To feel there wasn’t a choice, which meant rushing hither and thither. It seemed as if everyone in the family would all agree, it would be easier, simpler, more of a haven and peace filled time, to spend less focus on presents and make it about connecting and love. Acknowledging the spiritual and religious meaning behind it all is important also. For many it comes first and foremost.

What I am sharing is my experience and your experience is fine. Unless you feel the pull to do it a different way. And what would that be? Perhaps you can step out of the mould, outword traditions and choose something new. I frequently mention in blogs and personal growth classes about greeting anew. To be able to live consciously in the present moment, aware and responsive instead of reacting. To greet yourself anew is to question whether you are living mindfully, perhaps to before you go to bed journal how it is going. I have a couple of great resources to help you, I will send upon request and you may like to join a class.

This year my experience was different, there was greater resolution to assist with clarity and stronger boundaries to do what felt ‘right’ for me. The alternative was backing down, being influenced by ones with stronger wills to stay with age old traditions.

The alternative is feeling a sense of peace and wellbeing, gone the angst about Christmas and going along with ‘should do this because it is expected and because it is how it has always been done’.

Summing up, reconsider how you go about things, particularly the silly season. You may like to sit and feel into what the whole Christmas season means to you, write it down, so you remember. We can get caught up in what we have to do, thinking there is no choice. We are not victims and can stand up and be counted. Break the mould.

Here’s to doing it differently. Let go of some rules, be kind to yourself. Stop hanging on to things, the past, regrets. What if we greet each day, each moment, as a new day, moment and live consciously? We can achieve pretty much anything we believe we can and living in this way greatly assists. Let’s do it!

Finally an important point is we can not ask other people to change. Our actions may create friction and I have found usually things work out for the best when we hold strong. It helps to have the intention of creating the greatest possible harmony between people. Sometimes new ideas take time to germinate but don’t let that stop you from going for it, gently and with love.

Love and wishing you an awesome Christmas, with loving friends, family, and yourself. Be grateful and kind to yourself. You deserve it.

Lynette Mitchell xo

Anniversaries and Greeting Anew

I wrote about anniversaries a while back and felt it’s a great topic to revisit, after focusing on them for the 50th Edition of the Studfield Wantirna Community News. What a fantastic achievement for this lovely community paper, which brings an abundance of news and issues to local people. That also speaks volumes of the ongoing dedication and energy by the staff of volunteers who have contributed to this ongoing success.

I think you will agree the importance of celebrating milestones and taking the opportunity to look back and review the circumstances and history of the celebration. At the laughter club, we drop into spontaneity when there is such an event such as a birthday, anniversary or any other occasion to be marked. It livens the imagination. Just imagine the milestone of a child taking its first steps and the thrill and pride of the parents and family witnessing it. When little ones are young, they are celebrated and given praise and encouragement at every opportunity. As time wears on, there seems to be less acknowledging of special achievements, which can be a little sad and disappointing.

Greeting Anew – It is important to live each day and every mindful moment to be greeting anew. When you manage to greet anew every moment with each other and yourself, you set up the possibility of living your life in constant awe and amazement. I feel it is the way of human beings to automatically scrutinise and put things into boxes in our mind. It is more than that. It is so split second and automatic, that to avoid living life in a humdrum way, you have to make an ongoing mammoth effort to break every mould and do it differently. And how wonderful and more freeing would it be to live in this way? Can you feel it?

Life changes to be wondrous and you can get back the spring in your step and feeling optimistic and hopeful. Summing up on this point, we can so easily get stuck in a rut, living in the illusion that we have created. We can have fixed opinions and expectations of others and even all of life, according to how things were done before. It is easy to do something once or twice and then it becomes a habit, the norm. My heartfelt suggestion is to live each day fully and fresh, with zest and wonder, greeting each day and every moment anew. You will feel more inspiration from spirit or whatever that words means to you. I reckon that otherwise if we live like an automaton, we miss various hints and impressions sent our way that would make our lives better and more to our real liking.

Attending our laughter club or another laughter club will certainly assist you to live with more awareness, mindfulness, spontaneity and help keep you enjoying life. Enjoying and joy. That’s like being personally in the moment and feeling joy, the joyfulness of a child who is still young and free in their expression. Most will agree, we need more laughter, hope and joy in our lives.

It is Seniors Festival month. We are thankful to both the Knox City Council who support and help promote our free community Ferntree Gully Laughter Club and to the Studfield Wantirna Community News (SWN) who help raise awareness of what we do. Like a seed that takes its time to germinate, people read and hear about us and sometimes appear unexpectedly.

We will make a point on the 8th October to incorporate some laughs about milestones and anniversaries, attributing some to the 50th edition of the SWN. You will have first-hand experience of how we experience joy through laughing, which develops into rich spontaneous and often memorable laughter moments, rather like improv theatre, if you are familiar with that, then you will enjoy it.

Do come along and phone first to make your acquaintance, you will be glad that you did! Cheerio for now.

Love and Laughter, Lynette xo

Disclaimer: Information shared here is from my personal understanding and experience. Advice given is general and as I am not a medical doctor, take no responsibility for how it is received, my intention is that articles will be supportive and assist in living a fuller, holistic life.

Anniversaries Provide Us With A Time For Introspection

Sunday 3rd August was my 28th Wedding Anniversary. I felt myself drawn to write about our lives together and feel that anniversaries are a good time to do that, whether it is a wedding anniversary or birthday or other, say counting the years in a job. And so I found myself spontaneously journaling without another’s suggestion, recalling others who have done similar things, writing about and marking a time in their personal history. Read more here.